Love marriage or Arrange marriage? Does it really matter?

The following post is written as a part of a contest by Indi blogger in association with Sony Entertainment Television’s new TV Soap “Love marriage ya arrange marriage”.

Marriage, what is it? Technically it is a ceremony in every religion where a man and a woman commits unanimously to be together and promises to be loyal in the relationship, taking something like an oath to  responsibly take care of their spouse until death. But is this oath makes any difference when taken in a love marriage or when taken in an arrange marriage… huh… I don’t think so… promises are promises that can be broken any day, it does not need you to be a part of a particular kind of wedding. I have seen some failed love marriages, and at the same time, many beautiful marriages which never failed, only because it was not an arranged one. Even with arrange marriages, some people can never strike the cupid, hopeless people they are, some believes love should only be displayed secretly and alone, thus they fail to present the public display of affection to let their partners know that whatever the society thinks of it, my love for you is more important than anything in the world. There is a beautiful event that can only happen in an arranged form of marriage, that’s knowing and exploring the life of your spouse while living with him or her, that privilege is not possible in a love marriage in most of the cases because you got to know almost everything about your mate long before you tie the knot. Some time I believe that arrange marriage is unethical in a way. Imagine sharing bed with someone who you know for only a month or two, how can you trust a guy or gal about his/her past if they might have shared everything about their bad past relationships. In such a little time, can you actually believe that they have changed as a human being…? Sometimes I doubt that, I really do. But at the same time, I have a solution for it for those who is against love marriage, you should keep the relationship for at least a year or may be a further 6 months to know your partner as a person and also to clear your doubts and make sure if he/she is really a faithful person in relationship. Love marriage has also its flaws like the lack of hesitation and formalities between the partners which sometimes leads the relationship to too much of demands personally or financially. Also in a love marriage there is a maximum probability of comparison between your pre and post marriage life that is very natural but your partner may not understand this natural change. Love marriages also have an advantage, your partner knows your weaknesses and strengths from the very starting of your married life and things become easier to accomplish. Whatever the form of marriage one does for himself, Love is above these classifications of marriage. It depends from person to person how he makes it beautiful either by loving the arrangement done by elders or by arranging a love relationship for a lifetime where marriage will only be another milestone.

And don’t you forget to like its Facebook page.

www.facebook.com/LoveYaArrange

-Amritt Rukhaiyaar

Kick Ass: Hit girl steals the show.

Listening to the original soundtrack of “for a few dollars more” and it is giving me immense passion to write, wow every chord every string used in this particular track gives a jolt of ecstasy in my blood streams. By the way, this track has been re-used in Nicolas Cage starring Kick-Ass and is used as theme music for the Hit Girl. Oh god, this track and this character hit girl have become my latest love, I could watch her fight all day while listening to this track in the background, I think I am running out of words here to explain how beautiful this track is and how beautifully it has been put to use for the Hit Girl in Kick Ass.

Here is the video to the tremendous scene with the tremendous sound track:

So what do you think, isn’t she enigmatic? At first this little girl reminded me of Alice, the “Resident Evil” Alice. But then I realized, she is way too quick and flexible than Alice was and of course she is stunningly beautiful, she is also one of the lead characters in Martin Scorcese’s Hugo. Some Actors lands in Hollywood to play the lead character only, she reminds me of Superstars Natalie Portman and Leonardo Dicaprio, remember them as kids, in films like “Leon the professional” and “What’s eating Gilbert Grape” and “This boy’s life” respectively.

She is truly going be Hollywood’s next sweetheart in the years to come; she is definitely someone to look out for. She will hit it very soon.

-Amritt Rukhaiyaar

The Vampire Diaries: Reviews

Don't get mislead by comparing it with the Stephenie meyer's Twilight Saga, Twilight was a complete mess of characters drenched up with overacting and confusing links, whereas VD is a  perfect mixture of romance, thriller and drama added accordingly with some flamboyant characters and historical measures.

Elena, a 17 year old chick, with no parents alive is as sensible as his brother is not, she gets attracted by the charm of the vampire Stefan Salvatore who is actually some 160 years old, their romance was just starting to groom when enters the hottest character of the show "Damon" and the show becomes a sudden hit with great acting by humans, vampires, werewolves and witches. Vampire Diaries has got gizmos as well, and that too really fascinating ones, that you will actually start to believe that there were vampires for real. 

Every character is as important as the other. Every person I meet has their own protagonist according to them. You will develop more love for this show once the hybrids comes up.

This one is a must watch for every Drama Addict.

My rating: 8 out of 10

-Amritt Rukhaiyaar

The Two Kinds of People

I believe there are more kinds of people than the number of colors or their shades present, but there are only two kinds of people I really admire. 

The Punctually Focused ones: They are like your corporate bosses, never late, hair combed strongly, shirt well tucked in, shoe polished. They don't know this thing called being late, everything they do; they do well ahead of time. They get good grades in school, then get a good engineering college [or medical, nothing else] they don't waste too much time thinking what career they should choose. They agree to the masses, if this is the boom right now, they will go for it. Then they get a good job in some MNC, work in there; get regular promotions and ends up retiring there only. They close all the doors that can lead them to "think out of the box". So, despite of having an average IQ level, these people achieve everything the society demands out of a citizen. They have many small targets which they achieve one after another.  They become the perfect spouse too, buying their wives happiness. The Best Part is: They have one single agenda, Hard Work. They believe: “if you want this, you must work hard”. 

And the other kind I admire:

The Passionately Focused ones: They have a purpose, they have one passion or a set of passion, thinking of which they spend all their day. They don’t wake for days and they don’t sleep for days too. They are estranged from family, because when they listened to their family they could not come up with the kind of art they had produced living alone with austerity. They don’t try to please the society, actually it works only this way; they are better artist because they only please themselves. They are brave, if they don’t like your company, they will throw you out of your house and if they like it, they will die for you. Their friends try to suggest them that how they should live according to the society but they listen to their heart only. They know, they don’t belong to the society, so they happily leaves their family, they don’t run after getting married or having kids. The Best Part is: Whatever they do, they do with passion, and they spend all their life to find one answer or may be a couple of them. In short, their life are wasted till the most part of it, when one day they achieve their one and only target, like a painting idea struck with an unusual finish to it, or a literary twist comes up in mind after some 10 years. They are mavericks. They are understood by other mavericks only. They believe: “I am born for this, let’s not waste time doing that”.

And then there is the third kind, the people of the 21^st century, it’s sad but we can’t be like the 2^nd kind I mentioned. However passionate we tell ourselves; you have to admit, at some point even your soul mate finds you crazy and then you start behaving maturely to please your better half and in this way you can never be a passionately focused soul. Almost every day we have to ignore our passion for some other responsibility of our family or our career or kids or anyone else. Even a passionate movie maker in India is bound to use the F*** word many a times, what if one of his scenes demands such obscenity and abusiveness, why can’t he use it. As a result, his passionate abusing scene has been taken to toll by the society.  

But there is always the first kind you can be.

-Amritt Rukhaiyaar

And what happened after my counselling

I told you how my "preparation began to being an engineer", but did I mention to you what happened after that, so here I am after some 10 months to conclude  the next episode of my endeavors in Indore, since the 1st one have been read and liked like a bestseller book or a blockbuster movie, I still have no idea...why it attained such a cult status among my other blog posts, it was an ordinary post, but perhaps SEO played an important role to make this ordinary post a legendary one.

What happened straight away was the first college day, which I wrote in great detail in this post, and described how I met my best friend Khalid Khan on that particular day and how our frequencies matched perfectly.

Here is what happened next:

MY FIRST RAGGING SESSION

On the way back home, I went to my bus to reserve a seat to make myself seated, I realized in the bus only that there was no rule existed that could win a seat to the juniors except for pleading to the seniors, and the most terrible thing of the day was that there were only two of us as juniors, the other one was Jayesh, the rest of all were seniors, and guess what, it was bus no. 3, the most ragging struck and controversial bus of the college, I gave infinite intros, sang like a radio and danced like some robot, Jayesh and I were sort of enjoying these ragging sessions.

Here is a picture of mine, when I was in the first years:

L to R: Shaleen, I, Anshul and Vijay. Photographed by Gautam Gupta