The following post is written as a part of a contest by Indi blogger in association with Sony
Entertainment Television’s new TV Soap “Love
marriage ya arrange marriage”.
Marriage, what is it? Technically it is a ceremony in every
religion where a man and a woman commits unanimously to be together and
promises to be loyal in the relationship, taking something like an oath to responsibly take care of their spouse until
death. But is this oath makes any difference when taken in a love marriage or
when taken in an arrange marriage… huh… I don’t think so… promises are promises
that can be broken any day, it does not need you to be a part of a particular kind
of wedding. I have seen some failed love marriages, and at the same time, many
beautiful marriages which never failed, only because it was not an arranged one.
Even with arrange marriages, some people can never strike the cupid, hopeless
people they are, some believes love should only be displayed secretly and
alone, thus they fail to present the public display of affection to let their
partners know that whatever the society thinks of it, my love for you is more
important than anything in the world. There is a beautiful event that can only
happen in an arranged form of marriage, that’s knowing and exploring the life
of your spouse while living with him or her, that privilege is not possible in
a love marriage in most of the cases because you got to know almost everything
about your mate long before you tie the knot. Some time I believe that arrange
marriage is unethical in a way. Imagine sharing bed with someone who you know
for only a month or two, how can you trust a guy or gal about his/her past if
they might have shared everything about their bad past relationships. In such a
little time, can you actually believe that they have changed as a human being…?
Sometimes I doubt that, I really do. But at the same time, I have a solution
for it for those who is against love marriage, you should keep the relationship
for at least a year or may be a further 6 months to know your partner as a
person and also to clear your doubts and make sure if he/she is really a
faithful person in relationship. Love marriage has also its flaws like the lack
of hesitation and formalities between the partners which sometimes leads the
relationship to too much of demands personally or financially. Also in a love
marriage there is a maximum probability of comparison between your pre and post
marriage life that is very natural but your partner may not understand this
natural change. Love marriages also have an advantage, your partner knows your
weaknesses and strengths from the very starting of your married life and things
become easier to accomplish. Whatever the form of marriage one does for
himself, Love is above these classifications of marriage. It depends from
person to person how he makes it beautiful either by loving the arrangement
done by elders or by arranging a love relationship for a lifetime where
marriage will only be another milestone.
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-Amritt Rukhaiyaar
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Trust me girl, this man is a male chauvinist and you certainly don't deserve him, I know you are alone but try to look at the brighter side that you got rid of a moron. Just be yourself and find someone worth. And Next time, make sure these stupid details doesn't matter for him.
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